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One hundred thousand welcomes. I’ve been waiting for you here at the end of the world.

Welcome to the home of The Life Doula, my website. It has only just occurred to me that websites are like your home on the internet. If you’ve ended up here you must really like me to have clicked this far through. So I’d like to say hi and offer you a virtual cup of tea, just as if you have found your way to my home or enough of a sense of belonging to stay here for a while. It’s a real honour that you should come here to hang out for a bit. I hope you find something beneficial or some clue as to what you are looking for. If you click on the process button you’ll find my blog and maybe a few more things to relate to. Alternatively, you can head over to my shop and find some of the ebooks I’ve compiled from my blogs over the years. I’m a raw, real and ready dyslexic with a punk attitude.

I remember being nineteen lying in bed and coming up with the idea “I just want to feel safe in my own skin”. Now twenty years on I realise that was a revolutionary thought. This thought may well be the seedling story of The Life Doula and my first inkling of how all-encompassing trauma can be. Trauma didn’t have a name back then, it was overwhelm, panic, depression and hopelessness.

Nearly twenty years later I remember that very distinct moment where I was sat down in my own home, where there was somebody else, and noticed what it felt like to be relaxed for the very first time.

My story is not your story.

Ideas and insights into the field of trauma have grown and changed since 1999. My path to self-discovery has had many direct and indirect twists and turns since then. It’s not going to take you twenty years. What I can say is that I have two homes my body and this beautiful planet Earth and I am here to help one to preserve the other. If that is the story that you are interested in I can help you.

I believe that trauma and the impacts that it has on our minds, bodies and souls is one of the greatest challenges of our time.

I personally have spent several years navigating public health systems trying to find good therapy that might relieve me of the madness that I felt. In my experience, good trauma-informed wellness practitioners are like unicorns and this needs to be rectified. I’ll tell you now the number one ‘cure’ for trauma is a secure attachment having someone you can trust in your life. The big news is that you are not mad. You might be overwhelmed, exhausted, anxious, panicked, depressed and even scared. However, those things don’t make you mad. In my experience, uncomfortable emotions are often indicators of the things that aren’t working for us rather than not working within us. For most of us, our emotional landscapes are yet to be mapped, it takes an intrepid sort of explorer to want to go into the unfound parts of the world, especially when they are to be found inward.

The world and the universe are full of connections even if it is the big black energy force that we have now discovered to be pushing us all outward. So if you have decided that it is time; that you want to go beyond, plunge into the darkness and catch a star I’m here.

As a species we can’t afford to go on as we are. The human world is at the very centre of our climate crisis. We are all responsible for our part. It’s time for change. It may be down to us to decide what to do with the time we have left. Are you part of the solution? There are so many solutions, even perfectly tailored ones just for you. So I’m here healing humans,  pioneering a wellbeing economy for a healthier, happier, planet.

It’s a small blue dot called Earth, third planet from the sun, the solar system, the Milky Way galaxy, somewhere in the ever expanding universe.

The earth’s atmosphere is made up mainly of nitrogen. Let’s consider that fact, presuming you are human. We breathe oxygen. An invisible gaseous substance that is not guaranteed in our complex and spinning world. Of all things most vital to human survival it’s oxygen. 3 minutes without it and you are dead unless of course, you are superhuman? Your breath is not assured while clinging to the Earth’s surface on our highest peaks, under our oceans and sadly our polluted cities. If you are able to breathe clean fresh air, if you are not suffocating or drowning, you have the ability to live and thrive.

The Earth’s surface is two-thirds water. We are the blue planet. You are more connected to the earth than you think for being 80% water. If you are feeling a bit crappy, maybe the best thing you can do is reconnect with your home planet by absorbing some water. Swim in it, bath in it, drink it, be it. We are a water planet and maybe the biggest misperception and mis-education we have is that our planet is called Earth and not Water. How’s that for a perfect example of how warped the human perspective can be? Who’s in charge of renaming the planet?

Our planet’ atmosphere and surface consist mainly of nitrogen and water. It would seem today that outdated human experiences dictate our perspectives, often wrongly. It doesn’t make sense? So little of life does. You don’t need to be here right now. You can escape through your dreams if you need to. Your dreams are more important to your continual existence than food. To fall asleep, we must be safe from the elements and any predators. Too much sun and we will dehydrate. Too much cold and we will freeze, turning the liquid in our bodies against us. Too much water and we will drown. When we are exposed we are vulnerable not only to the elements but also attacks, not just from animal predators but humans too.

In these times we need shelter, which can come in many forms, a tree, a cave, it can be built with materials, it can be provided by other living things, sometimes another human can simply shield us with their body, protect us, make us safe. That leads to the question; are you safe? Are all the conditions in place so that you can feel safe in your own skin? At home in your own body?

If you’ve diligently read this list you’ve been blessed with an education. However, if you find that oxygen, water, sleep and shelter are missing from your life then congratulations you are invited to join the Healing Humans Circle. I have thought that through, in this era it is possible to have access to the internet without having our basic human needs met.

I’m offering human connection for the digital age.